Editorial: A District Devastated
Someone once said that sentences can hold more weight than you might be prepared for. And we here at the “Times” have struggled with the weight of the words needed to communicate the events of this past week.
So, instead we have taken pause… pause to reflect on the life of a young girl, while we grapple with the horror of her death. Pause to consider the families involved; friends, loved ones and even those who didn’t know her, all shocked by the tragedy which has occurred in our quiet country town.
If it was at all possible, Donald was even quieter over the weekend, with many turning their thoughts inwards, or moving about in a state of shock and weary sadness; processing their concern and deep despair and trying to make sense of something that feels impossible to understand. Layla was 13 years old. Her life was brutally ended and the entire town is reeling over the loss.
Thoughts automatically go to her family and friends. The grief and pain they must be feeling would be immeasurable and now is the time as a community to lift them up with support. It is not a time for rumours or misinformation. Answers will come and no doubt more questions will be raised as well. There will be time for discussion later to broach the topic of prevention and perhaps a way forward will become clear.
For now, let Layla’s legacy be her life, not her death. Let us be careful to remember Layla for who she was. She was more than the tragedy that claimed her life. Layla was a beautiful young girl who had her own passions, friendships and dreams for the future. She enjoyed colouring her hair, shopping, and spending time with her friends; and those closest to her will remember the little things that made her smile and the person she was.
Anger and frustration are both inevitable when trying to make sense of such an incomprehensible tragedy. It feels as though the innocence of this small town was shattered along with Layla’s.
Nevertheless, words, yes, even positive uplifting words, could never change what has happened, but we might hope to heal a little part of ourselves by talking, sharing and connecting in whatever ways we find work for us. The care we now show each other may put a little salve on the wound of the pain and the shock of it all. Each one of us will need to process in our own way.
The Buloke Shire Council has confirmed that the Bullock’s Head viewing platform, overlooking the Richardson River, may be used as a location for floral tributes, to share words of support or spend a quiet moment of reflection. This peaceful location will be available throughout this period of grieving and remembrance.
Local churches held a prayer vigil for all affected, while local businesses and cafes have shown support by way of extended hours and “safe spaces” to connect with each other.
Whether you were close to Layla or her family, knew her only in passing, or didn’t know her at all, you may still feel the impact of her loss. Local schools are offering support services, such as Beyond Blue, Lifeline, headspace, and Kids Helpline. Support is also readily available to anyone else in the district and beyond, who might need to share with someone.
Contact numbers for support services are as follows: EWHS Wellbeing and Counselling Service 5477 2222; Grampians Community Health 5358 7400; headspace 1800 650 890; Beyond Blue 1300 224 636; and Lifeline 13 11 14.
For Donald. Our Donald and it’s neighbouring towns… The news cameras and police services will eventually leave, and the attention of the world will move on, but this district will be forever changed. It’s up to us what we choose to do next and how we respond to our new reality.
It is most important now to remember the reasons why this shockwave has been felt right through the community. It is because it is so close-knit and we support each other – so let’s continue to do so. Be kind, be gentle, be patient and be there for one another as we process this monstrous event.
It’s important to reach out – don’t forget to lean on one another through the difficult times; hold one another closely as we navigate these waters. All of us need a soft place to land.
Our thoughts are with the parents and guardians facing difficult conversations with their children at this time. Above all, however, our hearts remain with Layla’s family and friends, and all those affected by this tragedy.
